Today's Gay Etiquette Question

From Steven Petrow's Civil Behavior column in the New York Times comes this question:

Q. Dear Civil Behavior: I’m a sergeant in the Army, and my girlfriend and I are to meet with a married gay couple (he’s an officer). I am not sure how to introduce her to my friend’s married partner. Do I say, “Jennifer, this is Colonel Smith and his husband, Mr. Andrews?” (He kept his own last name.) I don’t want to sound rude or insensitive (plus he outranks me a lot and I don’t want to do push-ups for the rest of my life — LOL). Any guidance you have will be much appreciated. – Yankee Rebel, U.S. Army

Give us your answer then hit the link for Petrow's response.